my blood boiled aft gettin a fxxxxxx rude reply fr a cousin. i m always tryin to b neutral & jus 1 ear in & d other out whenever my mum said tt she kan bu qi all of us. but aft d incident which she 不留面子for our aunt on a X'mas eve gatherin & her reply nw, think i cant b bother w her anymore.
X'mas eve, we always have gatherin & exchange gift. once, right in front of other & me, when she received a gift fr an aunt, she jus simply blurt out, '这礼物纸不是去年的吗？'. her younger bro stopped her & say how can she say like tt, & she replied, '根本都是吗。这明明是去年的。'so fr then, her present, i wont put in effort to buy.
my mum always say she come on CNY cos of angbao, & tt keep saying others gave her how much. & when my relatives were talkin ab my weddin date, she said tt mth she usually go holi, etc. but all i choose not to register.
however, d reply i got jus nw, is like tellin me she don ve d heart to come. her heart isn't w us. her parents divorce & she don wanna ve so much link w us. anw, i don care if she wanna come anot. if u don wanna come, jus say u go holi la. not like i will cx ur passport or so wat.
d whole episode happened in aug durin a gatherin, i asked my aunt aka her mum if she & her bro will come & to get their address & contact. however, my aunt cant cfm & don know their add. ok. nvm. nothing weird. cos my parents till nw oso cant write out my new add. so my aunt gave me their contacts.
knowin dis cousin, i choose to ask d bro 1st. d bro end up dk who i'm till i say i fr his mom's side & stay where. he den reply to ask me to check w his sis for his name & add cos he's workin. fine. i cx w her & she give me only 1 add which i noe is not whr d bro is stayin.
last week, aft my mum ask me to cfm w them their attendance & if need baby chair, etc. so once again, i sms them separately. i asked d bro 1st again. & he reply pretty quickly & said he may b workin & tt his dad & sis will go. thus, i asked hw i should address d invitation card to. he replied & said address to his dad but i don ve his dad's name & so i asked him again.
on d other hand, right aft i ask his attendance, i sms his sis to ask her too. & she replied tt she will be attendin w his bro's wife & baby & tt she's reply on his bro's behalf too & so his bro wont reply me. yet her bro alrdy relied me w diff ans. so i reply them separately, askin them to cfm & let me noe. she immediately reply to say tt their dad wont be attendin but thr is no news fr d bro.
aft like almost a week, there is no reply. so dis time, i sms them both tgt w 1 msg. sayin tt we will mail 2 cards to her & her bro & we will save 3 seats & 1 baby seat for them. But i would need them to discuss & cfm who will attend once cfm. i alrdy don care if lesser ppl will come. but y i need to noe who is attendin cos it's really impt. if their dad r comin, he wont wish to sit w my aunt. so we will need to swop my cousins fr another table with them so they will sit at diff table. we cant cfm tt only on tt day itself esp if all ppl alrdy come. it wont b nice to swop seats when ppl alrdy seated ma.
her reply:
'Shan Shan, as this is a happy occasion for you, I really do not want to say things too harsh, have to tell u, we have already informed who will be attending the wedding. So that will be the attendees. If possible please do not ask the same questions over and over again... Regards!'
hey, if you both give me a definite ans, do i have to ask again? ur bro nvr say ur dad not comin. he totally nvr reply my request for ur dad's name. so d ans is not clear. I also asked u previously if it's cfm tt it will b u & ur sis in law & baby but u oso nvr cfm. if u think i keep askin redundant qs, den in dis reply, u can oso jus say d attendees again so i wont ask. replyin like tt means wat?
dear asked me to reply her back say it's they who nvr cfm w us. bro say dad & sis comin. sis say dad not comin & tt she b comin w sis in law & baby. both ans r diff, & nvr reply a confirmation. but i guess i gonna listen to a friend, wait at least a day see if d bro reply. but i jus 咽不下这口气. i really wish to say back. i don care if she end up really not comin. i don 稀罕.
Tuesday, 23 October 2012
Thursday, 11 October 2012
Good fortune
I have a really nice boss despite d fact tt he is always chasin aft us for results. though i m in dis place for more than 9 yrs, undertakin diff roles, i m so blessed to meet nice ppl ard. ya. thr r few tt don accept me but those ppl aren't impt. most impt r those ppl tt recognise me & my effort & thus givin me so many opportunities all these yrs esp since i quit to go back to study.
i can say dis is a place whr i can call s another hm yet i noe in long run, i shouldn't b here forever even if diff roles. but it's a place whr i can learn n fr current situation, allowin me to progress towards whr i would prefer to be. it allows me to grow up & learn here but i guess ultimately i would ve to leave though no matter hw reluctant i may it.
well, i feel so much cos i guess i will miss stayin w my parents though thr can b times i don agreed upon certain behaviour, etc which made me really upset. i actually feel like huggin them, & no matter hw i thank them & even those tt help me along d way is nvr enough to really express hw i m really feelin right nw. frankly speakin, i do feel like cryin right nw.
i guess all d gd fortune i had accumulated durin all d tough struggle in d past for those SOKA performance & being a leader is still embracin me. I must try to accumulate more good fortune b4 wat i had accumulated become depleted or gone into deficit.
i can say dis is a place whr i can call s another hm yet i noe in long run, i shouldn't b here forever even if diff roles. but it's a place whr i can learn n fr current situation, allowin me to progress towards whr i would prefer to be. it allows me to grow up & learn here but i guess ultimately i would ve to leave though no matter hw reluctant i may it.
well, i feel so much cos i guess i will miss stayin w my parents though thr can b times i don agreed upon certain behaviour, etc which made me really upset. i actually feel like huggin them, & no matter hw i thank them & even those tt help me along d way is nvr enough to really express hw i m really feelin right nw. frankly speakin, i do feel like cryin right nw.
i guess all d gd fortune i had accumulated durin all d tough struggle in d past for those SOKA performance & being a leader is still embracin me. I must try to accumulate more good fortune b4 wat i had accumulated become depleted or gone into deficit.
Sunday, 23 September 2012
wedding troubles
dis isnt jus all ab myself n my encounters but is wat i see fr others oso..
traditional chinese wedding will start off w d customary ceremony where groom come to pick d bride & d bride's jie mei will make it difficult for d groom n tt is wat we called s gate crashing. den d groom & bride will go to their home for tea ceremony before gg back to bride's side for tea beremony or even for outdoor shoot b4 returning. simply s it may sound but if got mamy relatives
den even if w/o outdoor shoot, may oso b v rush.
other prob can oso surface at d hotel or restaurant. like pen no ink, media cant play, laptop cant connect to projector, mic quality poor, things not set, things forget bring. certain things r unavoidable, certain things r avoidable. yet thr still can have many other prob. like uncoorporative guests. guest who 自作主张, 自已为是 & assume can bring any no of ppl they wan despite ppl tekling them cant. but at least these r minority.
wedding is a once in a lifetime event. everybody w well state of mind will want their weddinv to b perfect. to b how they wish it would b. would participate n find watevet thry can. would find ideas.would b worry if anythibg would go wrong. yet today, now, i m at a most disorganise dinner at a really bad location or rather in a building tt ihas really bad structure design w confusing signs. d bride is fr laos so if she didnt care is undrrstandable cos she dk. but d groom, a fellow singaporean & he been to many dinner & b brothers for few times, yet he didnt care & leave all to hus coordinator n 4 bros to manage a rented ballroom arranged w 50 tables. emcees only come at 7pm n attempted rehearsal makin ppl blur b4 they stopped. d groom still wanna think of more ideas like popper when his bros r all shag out & tired.w last min role changes & additional of numerous tasks. w last min searching of all songs for march in, montages, etc. & his cocktail montage seems to b jus open d slideshow fr his laptop photo gallery w scenaries, other ppl, w table plan comin in when guest comin, w last min chsnges n shifting ppl fr 1 table to another, w certain tables where ppl r unknown where to sit & too msny to b named.
y i say d buildin is bad. lvl 1 no toilet. d toilet is deep inside d ballroom so w/o emtering d ballroom, there is no way to access d toilet. d card stated lvl 2 but they don wan ppl take lift up cos no space for recept. but i see ppl in wheelchair, w walkin sticks. d signage put is lvl 1 but there is only 1 restaurant thr. n there is another weddin stated at lvl 2. i came early to pass dear his shirt. i noe lvl 2 but blur when see lvl 1. i climb stairs up to see another function so i climb fown. not onlt i blur. ppl come take lift but saw lvl 1 sign n they wanna press lvl 1 in d lift. lift door openat lvl 2 they oso blur. ppl come uncertain of d chinese name n ask d waitress for d restaurant n they oso confuse n almost bring to wrong place. ppl oso commemt tt d toilet is v far. there is no seats at lvl 1 for ppl who came early. only got seats outside restaurant for restaurant.
d groom himself is like umsure of wat he wants n unsure of everything. florist close at 9 yet he wan to collect flowers aft. yet he wan bring his in laws to tour ard. book mpv oso book late. no car to chauffeur ppl ard fr laos like his in laws n so coordinator need to help him find driver but can last min chsnge plan. end up we only reach home at almost 11 ytd to iron dear clothes. for all these effort. is only worth angbao of 20+. haiz. y can there b such ppl ard???
traditional chinese wedding will start off w d customary ceremony where groom come to pick d bride & d bride's jie mei will make it difficult for d groom n tt is wat we called s gate crashing. den d groom & bride will go to their home for tea ceremony before gg back to bride's side for tea beremony or even for outdoor shoot b4 returning. simply s it may sound but if got mamy relatives
den even if w/o outdoor shoot, may oso b v rush.
other prob can oso surface at d hotel or restaurant. like pen no ink, media cant play, laptop cant connect to projector, mic quality poor, things not set, things forget bring. certain things r unavoidable, certain things r avoidable. yet thr still can have many other prob. like uncoorporative guests. guest who 自作主张, 自已为是 & assume can bring any no of ppl they wan despite ppl tekling them cant. but at least these r minority.
wedding is a once in a lifetime event. everybody w well state of mind will want their weddinv to b perfect. to b how they wish it would b. would participate n find watevet thry can. would find ideas.would b worry if anythibg would go wrong. yet today, now, i m at a most disorganise dinner at a really bad location or rather in a building tt ihas really bad structure design w confusing signs. d bride is fr laos so if she didnt care is undrrstandable cos she dk. but d groom, a fellow singaporean & he been to many dinner & b brothers for few times, yet he didnt care & leave all to hus coordinator n 4 bros to manage a rented ballroom arranged w 50 tables. emcees only come at 7pm n attempted rehearsal makin ppl blur b4 they stopped. d groom still wanna think of more ideas like popper when his bros r all shag out & tired.w last min role changes & additional of numerous tasks. w last min searching of all songs for march in, montages, etc. & his cocktail montage seems to b jus open d slideshow fr his laptop photo gallery w scenaries, other ppl, w table plan comin in when guest comin, w last min chsnges n shifting ppl fr 1 table to another, w certain tables where ppl r unknown where to sit & too msny to b named.
y i say d buildin is bad. lvl 1 no toilet. d toilet is deep inside d ballroom so w/o emtering d ballroom, there is no way to access d toilet. d card stated lvl 2 but they don wan ppl take lift up cos no space for recept. but i see ppl in wheelchair, w walkin sticks. d signage put is lvl 1 but there is only 1 restaurant thr. n there is another weddin stated at lvl 2. i came early to pass dear his shirt. i noe lvl 2 but blur when see lvl 1. i climb stairs up to see another function so i climb fown. not onlt i blur. ppl come take lift but saw lvl 1 sign n they wanna press lvl 1 in d lift. lift door openat lvl 2 they oso blur. ppl come uncertain of d chinese name n ask d waitress for d restaurant n they oso confuse n almost bring to wrong place. ppl oso commemt tt d toilet is v far. there is no seats at lvl 1 for ppl who came early. only got seats outside restaurant for restaurant.
d groom himself is like umsure of wat he wants n unsure of everything. florist close at 9 yet he wan to collect flowers aft. yet he wan bring his in laws to tour ard. book mpv oso book late. no car to chauffeur ppl ard fr laos like his in laws n so coordinator need to help him find driver but can last min chsnge plan. end up we only reach home at almost 11 ytd to iron dear clothes. for all these effort. is only worth angbao of 20+. haiz. y can there b such ppl ard???
Thursday, 13 September 2012
a sad news
dis mornin, once i log-in my FB & looked at my neighbourhood gp, saw a really shockin & sad news. a lady seemed to ve jumped down w her few mth old baby & both were dead aft.
aft followin d posts & their threads, found they jumped fr my blk. & those who can see clearly were fr my units at diff lvl. OMG!!! it's still unclear why this happened but they anticipated tt they fall fr a lvl above me but may not b fr d unit above. not sure if 1 of d residences anot. but still 1 lvl up is still s scary sia. so near.
anw, someone posted d wanbao's 1st pg. d baby is a gal & jus 6 mth old only. somemore, d lady were only married since mar last yr. so newly wed & d baby is so innocent. ppl oso say based on d paper, think they werent a residence & they fall fr d highest lvl (25). well, guess cos my blk is d tallest amg d other blk fr d same proj.
nw is still lunar 7th mth & dis kinda things happen. d last i heard of such news was fr d place i am stayin at nw. i wasn't sure if i should really b tt glad tt i wasn't thr seein what happened for both time. but fallin fr such height, even if i m thr, even if i can try renderin 1st aid, think oso hard. nw can only pray & chant for them.
aft followin d posts & their threads, found they jumped fr my blk. & those who can see clearly were fr my units at diff lvl. OMG!!! it's still unclear why this happened but they anticipated tt they fall fr a lvl above me but may not b fr d unit above. not sure if 1 of d residences anot. but still 1 lvl up is still s scary sia. so near.
anw, someone posted d wanbao's 1st pg. d baby is a gal & jus 6 mth old only. somemore, d lady were only married since mar last yr. so newly wed & d baby is so innocent. ppl oso say based on d paper, think they werent a residence & they fall fr d highest lvl (25). well, guess cos my blk is d tallest amg d other blk fr d same proj.
nw is still lunar 7th mth & dis kinda things happen. d last i heard of such news was fr d place i am stayin at nw. i wasn't sure if i should really b tt glad tt i wasn't thr seein what happened for both time. but fallin fr such height, even if i m thr, even if i can try renderin 1st aid, think oso hard. nw can only pray & chant for them.
Wednesday, 22 August 2012
BTOs near parents
talkin ab far fr my parents, jus saw tt recent BTOs thr r near my parents one & comin sept will b even closer to them than d recent past BTOs. haiz. if not cos jus got d hse recently & within 5 yrs cant sell, if not i might b tempted to apply for the comin BTOs.
cos if so, den i no need to change job eventually, & if really in future, got kids, can let my mum to help supervise even if got maid or so. & at least i still can meet my friend for supper & walk home even aft mid-night movie or to go for swim tgt. i guess i gonna miss these gd old days cos less than 100 days, gonna b far away le.
but i got an idea, if possible, if dear gg meet his buddy for chat & drink at night, den i take his car to meet my friend & den go pick him aft tt to go home lor. but hope really got d chance. cos sayin easier than doin. haiz.
cos if so, den i no need to change job eventually, & if really in future, got kids, can let my mum to help supervise even if got maid or so. & at least i still can meet my friend for supper & walk home even aft mid-night movie or to go for swim tgt. i guess i gonna miss these gd old days cos less than 100 days, gonna b far away le.
but i got an idea, if possible, if dear gg meet his buddy for chat & drink at night, den i take his car to meet my friend & den go pick him aft tt to go home lor. but hope really got d chance. cos sayin easier than doin. haiz.
Seletar Mall
slowly fallin in love w my new place but it's still too far fr work & fr parents. but d consolation is tt thr will b a mall near me. less than 400 m away? & it'd been cfm tt thr will ve cinema too.
http://business.asiaone.com/Business/News/Story/A1Story20120821-366666.html
http://sbr.com.sg/retail/in-focus/sphs-seletar-mall-be-completed-end-2014
been following d facebook gp of my estate & always don dare believe when they say d triangular plot of land in front of a lrt stn gonna ve a mall cos tt land don look big. even when d chinese yao cai dian ppl oso say thr will b a mall i still don dare believe cos scare of disappointment. even when the wooden barrier ard tt land got the mall's name den i believe thr will b a mall but still i wanna see fr my own eyes & so i did last mon.
when ppl fr fb anticipate if thr will b cinema, i still don believe. even till someone said cfm got cinema jus duno which co cos fr inside story of his co yet i still don believe. even when ppl say cos got pic of a couple eatin popcorn & i oso see fr my v own eye on mon i still don dare to put too high hope cos tt land really don look big for cinema.
but today, saw link tt tt fb gp put & now i guess i believe. since it's in d news though online, so it cant b fake right? hehe.
New mall at Sengkang named 'The Seletar Mall'
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The four-storey shopping mall is designed to include a gross floor area of 284,000 sq ft which includes two basement levels and a Cineplex.
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http://www.businesstimes.com.sg/premium/companies/others/seletar-mall-be-completed-end-2014-20120822
Seletar Mall to be completed end-2014
SPH's Seletar Mall to be completed by end-2014
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These include a Cineplex on the 4th storey, a food court on the 3rd level, anchor retail shops at the 1st, 2nd and 3rd storey, and a good-sized supermarket at Basement 2.
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other than d distance to work & fr my parents' place & only 1 feeder service to khatib/yishun mrt, i still quite like d location provided drivin la. cos gg town, etc is actually quite near. but i guess i wont drive. cos no $ = no car. if sg don rain, mayb i might consider learnin motor bike cos cheaper than car though more dangerous. at least distance to work wont b any issue anymore.
Tuesday, 21 August 2012
小孩的天真
sometimes i really envy kids. they r so pure & innocent though they can b really mischievious. sum had a family gathering at uncle's place & saw d youngest 2 boys playing hide & seek. the youngest took time to find d elder one & when it is his turn to hide, he will repeat where the elder hide. the cycle repeats itself till all of us were laughing but still he don noe wat happen & cont d whole process. however s n adult, we arent suppose to make such silly mistake or rather we try v hard not to so tt we wont b laugh by others. tt's y i hate being grown up but we had to face it. time wont wait for us.
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