ever tot of d formula below?
non-sensitive issue:
when direct and/or crude meets sensitive = no reaction
sensitive issue:
when direct and/or crude meets sensitive = explosive reaction esp when threat is felt even when small amt
& wat seems non-sensitive to 1 doesn't mean it would b for another. tolerance is another factor tt can affect d outcome. & emotion & mood can affect d tolerance lvl too. & there r many other factors too.
humans r such a complicated species.
Saturday, 19 October 2013
Monday, 14 October 2013
Life is so Irony
3 yrs ago I cant wait to get over my last 'exam-able' sem & 2.5 yrs ago I cant wait to get over my FYP. & when I finally graduated, was so relieved & happy. I told myself that I do not wanna study liao.
However, at times I still ve to read scientific papers. It is something that never fails to put me to slp.
Then 1 yr ago when l know of a chance to work outta lab, l tot finally l don't ve to read papers again. But l am wrong. At Times, I gotta read papers again. psychological papers. Cos dear wanna discuss his assignment with me.
Not only that. l have like gone Thru at least 1 full Module with him & that is on thinking critically. It is quite interesting actually.
Anw, cos of my change of job nature, actually l am still corsidering if l shld Take up a Master.
Life is so irony.
Monday, 26 August 2013
Nature vs Nurture?
Suddenly l had this feeling to write. Wanted to write in Facebook status but I think it might be long. Thus, decided to write it in this blog which I had not touch again for quite some time again. well, what trigger me is that I had this utterly mixed feeling that is mostly sad.
Mum had been babysitting many kids all these years & I had also seen many different types of parents from relatives, colleagues, etc. Parents that can be doting, pampering, protective, etc. To some that even got the bo chap attitude. Some will selflessly take leaves to take care of kids even if boss not happy. Some will struggle to get up & wake their kids even when they are unwell. Some will grumble & be angry when kids got unwell. Some will not mind to bring kid to specialist even though just 1 visit can cost few hundred. Some will just go straight to KKH. Why can there be so much extreme? Isn't the kid give a life by you? Didn't a mother carry the baby in her womb for months? Isn't the lad given birth by you?
Nature vs nurture. Does it mean that after giving birth, your task is completed? The kids will grow up by themselves? Does nature take it own course? Don't you need to find time to nurture? To guide? To teach? To love? To care? If you give the bo chap attitude to the kid, the kid would be nurture, be conditioned to think that no one care even if unwell. Or maybe even be scolded. They will end up having the learnt helplessness attitude. What ever happened, they keep everything to themselves. Do you think that is good? You might end up destroying the life of the kid esp if they are unwell & Kept to themselves about it, By then, it was discovered, it might already be way too late even if you paid immediate attention to it. But also f. you do pay attention rather than scold or ignore.
A cousin of mine manage to learn to go to Polyclinic when unwell. But at least she is old enough to make such decision for herself & got some savings fr doing part-time. But for a 12- Year old kid, do you think the kid will have such capabilities? It is really so sad especially if this happen to someone close to you. $ isn't everything. Though without $, you also won't survive, But $ doesn't buy you real love & care & concern. However, how much can you do to help? You can tell µ kid to look for you but if they never, you also can't help. haiz....
Saturday, 11 May 2013
safety
Last night, my parents called me askin if I accident recently. S usual, their story twisted saying I bump into lorry & I not happy & off my hp & dear worry. D whole scenario is a lorry broke down in my path & I was too closed to d triangular hazard sign to while tryin to steer out & notice tt plate I hit a car. Both of us got some dents & scratches but not so serious.
Anw, durin dinner & aft dinner today my parents tok ab it again & aft d incident at d petrol kiosk jus nw, I think next time when I drive, thr r many many things to notice & do & be careful too.
1) notice if windscreen got paper or so in case raining when driving
2) rmbr to lock all my doors even if i am waitin for dear or others & even if it may not b a short wait
3) blk my hp in case call/sms/etc come & disrupt my GPS navigation
4) rmbr to off d lights b4 I leave
5) make sure I don go wash car, etc alone
though we r in sg which is relatively safe, I suddenly recall tt day when I went to do d final settlement for d accident case, I think i'm oso too bold liao. for d whole case, I was alone startin fr when i jus hit d car, dear nvr pick my call, den i forget take note of d other's party car plate no & info. in d end i ask fr him via watsapp. den he called sayin increase in d amt he expected & i agreed cos i dk wat to cx & tt i tot he's d victim so though he initially said he can come to pass me d receipt, i felt bad & asked for scanned or photo of it. but in d end, dear said shld but too late. dear oso den said shld oso ve a b&w copy which we both signed to cfm close case & so i ask fr d guy if possible. he agreed & i only noe he said he stay sembawang so i tot i might b able to meet him like at d mall or mrt so we can sign. aft agreed to meet him but he said he is not at d mall but will send me a location, i took cab down. didn't noe wat d place is like. in cab, d cab uncle ask whr but i oso dk. i only can say i can set gps & tell him direction. d uncle said his impression of tt area got pubs. i almost fainted. i search & see tt d unit i was given is a crab restaurant so i was relieved. but when i reach & call him, he came out, i notice alcohol smell fr him. but i still assure myself tt mayb he got drink beer while eating. but... his friend called him & he told his friends tt they r all inside at d pool table. i really almost 'fainted' cos i was alone & it was dark alrdy. tt place is quite ulu. no hse nearby or near d bus stop. d bus stop is near a park. tt time i gave myself a time of a next cab in sight aft a few min if d bus still don come. i think i really made a too bold step cos i nvr figure out d location. i shld ve called my friend or cousin to accompany me even if i don wanna let my parents noe.
& aft dis car wash incident w d indian uncle trying to get in w so many things tt he shld ve notice d diff in car, i really think i shld not go for car wash, etc alone or to settle anything alone anymore. not to say outside but also settle things at home oso la. like for instance, d air con servicing which i had been wishin to call for. cos like for air con servicing for my parents' hse last yr, i was alone but thr r many technicians & in diff rm. hw can i 'supervise' all at once w things like keys, wallet, hp, etc ard d hse oso.
Anw, durin dinner & aft dinner today my parents tok ab it again & aft d incident at d petrol kiosk jus nw, I think next time when I drive, thr r many many things to notice & do & be careful too.
1) notice if windscreen got paper or so in case raining when driving
2) rmbr to lock all my doors even if i am waitin for dear or others & even if it may not b a short wait
3) blk my hp in case call/sms/etc come & disrupt my GPS navigation
4) rmbr to off d lights b4 I leave
5) make sure I don go wash car, etc alone
though we r in sg which is relatively safe, I suddenly recall tt day when I went to do d final settlement for d accident case, I think i'm oso too bold liao. for d whole case, I was alone startin fr when i jus hit d car, dear nvr pick my call, den i forget take note of d other's party car plate no & info. in d end i ask fr him via watsapp. den he called sayin increase in d amt he expected & i agreed cos i dk wat to cx & tt i tot he's d victim so though he initially said he can come to pass me d receipt, i felt bad & asked for scanned or photo of it. but in d end, dear said shld but too late. dear oso den said shld oso ve a b&w copy which we both signed to cfm close case & so i ask fr d guy if possible. he agreed & i only noe he said he stay sembawang so i tot i might b able to meet him like at d mall or mrt so we can sign. aft agreed to meet him but he said he is not at d mall but will send me a location, i took cab down. didn't noe wat d place is like. in cab, d cab uncle ask whr but i oso dk. i only can say i can set gps & tell him direction. d uncle said his impression of tt area got pubs. i almost fainted. i search & see tt d unit i was given is a crab restaurant so i was relieved. but when i reach & call him, he came out, i notice alcohol smell fr him. but i still assure myself tt mayb he got drink beer while eating. but... his friend called him & he told his friends tt they r all inside at d pool table. i really almost 'fainted' cos i was alone & it was dark alrdy. tt place is quite ulu. no hse nearby or near d bus stop. d bus stop is near a park. tt time i gave myself a time of a next cab in sight aft a few min if d bus still don come. i think i really made a too bold step cos i nvr figure out d location. i shld ve called my friend or cousin to accompany me even if i don wanna let my parents noe.
& aft dis car wash incident w d indian uncle trying to get in w so many things tt he shld ve notice d diff in car, i really think i shld not go for car wash, etc alone or to settle anything alone anymore. not to say outside but also settle things at home oso la. like for instance, d air con servicing which i had been wishin to call for. cos like for air con servicing for my parents' hse last yr, i was alone but thr r many technicians & in diff rm. hw can i 'supervise' all at once w things like keys, wallet, hp, etc ard d hse oso.
weird encounter at petrol kiosk
Today went back to ve dinner w my parents, grandma, godma & relatives. After dinner, while on our way back, dear tot of gettin a car wash & so we went.
Aft d car wash, we drive forward to let another staff to dry our car. s I was lookin at my side of window, I saw a man approachin & walkin nearer & nearer to d back seat at my side. I wad blurred cos he is not in d car wash team tee. Furthermore he was carrying a plastic bag which seems to b a loaf of bread. Thus I paid more attn to him.
Tt man is an indian uncle. He really come & open d back seat door so I shouted to him & ask him many times since he was attemptin to open d door, 'hello hello who u lookin for?' But d uncle jus wanna get in. 1 of his legalmost got in actually. As he was tryin to get in, not only his leg is gettin in 1st but his head oso. His face was facin me oso s i looked back & shout to him. Jus dk why he nvr 'hear' or 'see' cos even d car wash staff further away oso blur. Jus b4 he really got in, he den hear me & said 'sorry sorry same car' & closed d door & walk to d roadside. D car wash staff ended up laughin non-stop crunchin her stomach s she laugh. & dear was pissed by tt uncle. Actually dear nvr notice d uncle till I shouted. Even w d doors all closed, I can oso hear d staff laugh & say 'same car'.
I totally don understand why tt indian uncle can 'mistaken' d car. he dk whoever he is waitin for got no car wash? Cos ours was jus being dry when he approached. Our car is still wet oso. Y I say this is cos in d end he waded to roadside. So he is not waiting for car tt is havincar wash. furthermore, I shouted so many times to him. Y he nvr notice? I was oso lookin back at him & his face was facin me. We got eye contacts too. Is his eye sight not gd? Is his hearing got prob? Dear's car oso got hang scented bag on d hand grip above d door. It's dangling thr. Didnt d uncle notice tt diff? Ppl always comment tt our car smell nice fr all d scented bags which dear hang though we r both immune. If u say tt is no smell since dear & I r immune or not, but my mum commented ab d smell jus ab 2 hrs ago when we sent her & my cousins to d coffeeshop near my grandma's place. So not only d uncle' ears & eyes got problem? His nose oso got problem. I really don understand why.
Though we r in sg, I think to b safe, next time I drive I better lock d car doors. & I wont go car wash, etc alone. This is jus too insecure & scary to think ab cos u nvr noe wat d person's intention. Is it really pure mistake? I really dk.
Aft d car wash, we drive forward to let another staff to dry our car. s I was lookin at my side of window, I saw a man approachin & walkin nearer & nearer to d back seat at my side. I wad blurred cos he is not in d car wash team tee. Furthermore he was carrying a plastic bag which seems to b a loaf of bread. Thus I paid more attn to him.
Tt man is an indian uncle. He really come & open d back seat door so I shouted to him & ask him many times since he was attemptin to open d door, 'hello hello who u lookin for?' But d uncle jus wanna get in. 1 of his legalmost got in actually. As he was tryin to get in, not only his leg is gettin in 1st but his head oso. His face was facin me oso s i looked back & shout to him. Jus dk why he nvr 'hear' or 'see' cos even d car wash staff further away oso blur. Jus b4 he really got in, he den hear me & said 'sorry sorry same car' & closed d door & walk to d roadside. D car wash staff ended up laughin non-stop crunchin her stomach s she laugh. & dear was pissed by tt uncle. Actually dear nvr notice d uncle till I shouted. Even w d doors all closed, I can oso hear d staff laugh & say 'same car'.
I totally don understand why tt indian uncle can 'mistaken' d car. he dk whoever he is waitin for got no car wash? Cos ours was jus being dry when he approached. Our car is still wet oso. Y I say this is cos in d end he waded to roadside. So he is not waiting for car tt is havincar wash. furthermore, I shouted so many times to him. Y he nvr notice? I was oso lookin back at him & his face was facin me. We got eye contacts too. Is his eye sight not gd? Is his hearing got prob? Dear's car oso got hang scented bag on d hand grip above d door. It's dangling thr. Didnt d uncle notice tt diff? Ppl always comment tt our car smell nice fr all d scented bags which dear hang though we r both immune. If u say tt is no smell since dear & I r immune or not, but my mum commented ab d smell jus ab 2 hrs ago when we sent her & my cousins to d coffeeshop near my grandma's place. So not only d uncle' ears & eyes got problem? His nose oso got problem. I really don understand why.
Though we r in sg, I think to b safe, next time I drive I better lock d car doors. & I wont go car wash, etc alone. This is jus too insecure & scary to think ab cos u nvr noe wat d person's intention. Is it really pure mistake? I really dk.
Thursday, 25 April 2013
accident & emergency call
Ytd met w d 1st accident of my life. While driving hm at am exit to another expressway, kena blk by a lorry tt broke down in my lane. Tt time was heavy traffic & thr isnt any notice of d lorry so by time I realise it s right in front of me. While tryin to switch lane & to take note to avoid d hazard sign, I knock into another car. Luckily nobody was harm & I jus scratched d car but at tt moment, I really not sure wat I shld do. All I can think of is to call dear & to take pic. In d end dear nvr pick d call & I forget to take pic of d pic of d car fr far. I oso nvr took down particulars of d guy or even his car plate no. Everything happened jus to sudden & fast.
Aft d accident, dis tot sudden strike me. At work or others, we need write emergency contact person. Usually we would write our closest ones like our parents or husband/wife. We will oso think of them when we need help or feels scare or hopeless. Did we note tt they may not b d ones who r able to pick ur call at d shortest possible time due to work, etc? Actually b4 d accident, I did call dear to cx if I really can get home w low fuel light & meter below 'E'. When he nvr pick up, thought of my colleagues & friends appear in my mind & I wonder if I shld ask them. so aft I got d accident it really makes me thinks tt 远亲不如近邻. But having said so, it may still b unavoidable tt we may still think only of d one which we wan d comfort fr. it is really so 矛盾 of wat u wish & wat u might get.
Aft d accident, dis tot sudden strike me. At work or others, we need write emergency contact person. Usually we would write our closest ones like our parents or husband/wife. We will oso think of them when we need help or feels scare or hopeless. Did we note tt they may not b d ones who r able to pick ur call at d shortest possible time due to work, etc? Actually b4 d accident, I did call dear to cx if I really can get home w low fuel light & meter below 'E'. When he nvr pick up, thought of my colleagues & friends appear in my mind & I wonder if I shld ask them. so aft I got d accident it really makes me thinks tt 远亲不如近邻. But having said so, it may still b unavoidable tt we may still think only of d one which we wan d comfort fr. it is really so 矛盾 of wat u wish & wat u might get.
Saturday, 16 March 2013
fulfilling promises
Last sun had a company lunch at MBS Todai restaurant. Actually there is 2 days to choose from. 1 at MBS Todai on Sun & another is at Marina Aquamarine on Sat. Chose d MBS cos tt sun more free.
S dear gotta work & couldnt go, though only I eat foc, he wished to go too but too bad. However, he seemed really keen & was like quite disappointed tt he couldnt go. & so I promised to treat him thr when he isnt workin.
& there I go again though jus 6 days apart to treat him today aft his class & we r really filled to d max w alaska crabs (red crab, snow crabs & king crabs), sashimi (tuna & salmon) & many others. & dear is v satisfied w his meal today. :)
Oso cos tt time he was unwell & d royce chocolate was expiring, I finished up but promised to get for him when he's well. It'd been actually like 2 mths since but I nvr get chance to buy. Since we r at mbs, we went to buy 3 diff boxes of royce chocolate. I m so glad I m able to keep & fulfil all my promise. Hehe.
S dear gotta work & couldnt go, though only I eat foc, he wished to go too but too bad. However, he seemed really keen & was like quite disappointed tt he couldnt go. & so I promised to treat him thr when he isnt workin.
& there I go again though jus 6 days apart to treat him today aft his class & we r really filled to d max w alaska crabs (red crab, snow crabs & king crabs), sashimi (tuna & salmon) & many others. & dear is v satisfied w his meal today. :)
Oso cos tt time he was unwell & d royce chocolate was expiring, I finished up but promised to get for him when he's well. It'd been actually like 2 mths since but I nvr get chance to buy. Since we r at mbs, we went to buy 3 diff boxes of royce chocolate. I m so glad I m able to keep & fulfil all my promise. Hehe.
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