Nature vs Nurture?

Suddenly l had this feeling to write. Wanted to write in Facebook status but I think it might be long. Thus, decided to write it in this blog which I had not touch again for quite some time again. well, what trigger me is that I had this utterly mixed feeling that is mostly sad.

Mum had been babysitting many kids all these years & I had also seen many different types of parents from relatives, colleagues, etc. Parents that can be doting, pampering, protective, etc. To some that even got the bo chap attitude. Some will selflessly take leaves to take care of kids even if boss not happy. Some will struggle to get up & wake their kids even when they are unwell. Some will grumble & be angry when kids got unwell. Some will not mind to bring kid to specialist even though just 1 visit can cost few hundred. Some will just go straight to KKH. Why can there be so much extreme? Isn't the kid give a life by you? Didn't a mother carry the baby in her womb for months? Isn't the lad given birth by you?

Nature vs nurture. Does it mean that after giving birth, your task is completed? The kids will grow up by themselves? Does nature take it own course? Don't you need to find time to nurture? To guide? To teach? To love? To care? If you give the bo chap attitude to the kid, the kid would be nurture, be conditioned to think that no one care even if unwell. Or maybe even be scolded. They will end up having the learnt helplessness attitude. What ever happened, they keep everything to themselves. Do you think that is good? You might end up destroying the life of the kid esp if they are unwell & Kept to themselves about it, By then, it was discovered, it might already be way too late even if you paid immediate attention to it. But also f. you do pay attention rather than scold or ignore.

A cousin of mine manage to learn to go to Polyclinic when unwell. But at least she is old enough to make such decision for herself & got some savings fr doing part-time. But for a 12- Year old kid, do you think the kid will have such capabilities? It is really so sad especially if this happen to someone close to you. $ isn't everything. Though without $, you also won't survive, But $ doesn't buy you real love & care & concern. However, how much can you do to help? You can tell µ kid to look for you but if they never, you also can't help. haiz....